Carmen Okhmatovski

Individual and Relational Therapist

Reaching for help is a brave step. Whatever has brought you to this point, has likely taken a toll. Life stresses build up. Unresolved conflicts and traumas keep showing up and cause recurring issues. You notice patterns: the same argument, or same worry, the same relationship dynamics. Previous efforts to fix the problem have only brought temporary relief. You are tired of feeling this way, of fighting, of feeling alone... You want someone to help you get to the root of the issue and bring some lasting change and resolution. It's my honor to walk alongside you.

Conversations with Safe Harbour Therapy
75 – Grief and the Power of 'Being With'

My story.

My passion for therapy grew out of the observation that when people are in personal or relational distress, not only is human support the best medicine, but they often need someone to walk with them or guide them back toward finding their connection, place of centre, or sense of wholeness.

To my mind there is no greater work. I really care about people and find it very fulfilling to watch people step back into their power, enjoy better relational health, or more personal wholeness.

Life outside the office.

I am the proud mother of four amazing teens/tweens, and 2 mostly-amazing cats. I like to tinker with a guitar, and am a persistent but unsuccessful gardener. You can often find me having coffee with a friend or walking on the nature trail close to my house.


In therapy jargon, I would say my specializations are trauma and systems.
This sounds a little vague – like if someone asks “where do you live?” and you say “I live on earth.”

I could break that down to say that I work with clients to establish their goals for moving toward better personal or relational health and growth. And then while working toward those goals, we develop a deeper understanding of the broader picture of how their many past experiences and relationships are affecting current relationships, patterns, and mental health. We integrate that broader understanding of self and background into our path moving forward. We move forward by removing the barriers to connection or health – old patterns, communication, empathy, beliefs, etc., and creating new patterns and understandings.


My clients are amazing people. They come in with their struggles, their hurts, their fears, their insecurities, their difficult stories, their trembling hands, their breaking hearts, and they lay it on the table. They bravely take a look at their lives, and inside themselves, and take steps to grow and shift so they can finally experience the changes that they have wanted to see in their lives.

So often my clients come into session feeling defeated, broken, isolated, anxious, or hurt, but I also see their courage, their resilience, their tenacity, their strength, their joy, and their unwavering desire to connect in meaningful ways with people in their lives.

I am so deeply honored that my clients trust me to see and walk alongside them.

Therapies offered.

  • Narrative Therapy
  • Internal Family Systems
  • Brainspotting

My work is heavily influenced by Dr. Brene Brown, Dr. John Gottman, Gabor Mate, and Esther Perel.


I am a Master of Marriage and Family Therapy Intern in my final months of my Masters program at University of Winnipeg.

I am a certified Brainspotting Therapist, and a certified Circle of Security Parenting Facilitator.



I spent some time working youth with high needs at New Directions and Marymound.

I am currently a therapist at Manitoba Adolescent Treatment Centre, working with families and youth in rural and northern areas of Manitoba, for relational, individual, and psychiatric needs.

Contact information.

Here to Help.

75 – Grief and the Power of ‘Being With’

written by Carmen Okhmatovski on 29/04/21

One of the more notable qualities of grief is its ability to make us feel alone or isolated. “I’m surrounded by people, so why do I feel so lonely when I’m grieving?” Grief is the emotion of loss, and whether we have lost a person, a pet, a home, a dream, an identity…. there is […]

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69 – ABC’s of Parenting in a Pandemic with Carmen O, Marriage and Family Therapist

written by Carmen Okhmatovski on 24/12/20

Are you struggling to parent anxious kids while your own stress or anxiety is on the rise? During the pandemic, many parents are finding themselves struggling to maintain their own mental health, and emotionally regulate themselves while also managing their kids’ rising emotions. The recent changes in our interactions with each other and the outside […]

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57 – Navigating Conflict During COVID-19 with Carmen Okhmatovski

written by Carmen Okhmatovski on 25/09/20

Do you and your partner find yourselves struggling with more conflict during this time of COVID? Many couples find that the dynamics of their relationships have been changed or strained as a they spend more time together, less time with friends and family, and more time working from home or navigating return-to-work with COVID. Times […]

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